2013- The Resolutions

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I'm not making any New Year Resolutions for 2013. To be honest, I’m a little bored with the usual ones- lose 20 pounds -- or is it 30 now?

So, for the first time since records for these things began, I’ll be going into 2013 without a goal. This year I intend to treat myself better. This year I intend to live with more authenticity. This year I intend to push my boundaries. This year I intend to live closer to the promise of my chart- and that means listening to my strengths and actively working the more challenging aspects in my chart.

But where are the measurements, I hear you ask? How do you know whether you’ve done these things?

I wouldn’t go into a business project without a defined goal, without knowing what the outcome will look like, and how the success will be measured. The thing is, when it comes to business, somehow it’s easier to define goals. Very often there is a strategy and a critical path littered with milestones. Life for some of us isn’t like that. For some of us it is. For some of us it should be.

I have no planets in the element of Air, yet I constantly try to over analyse or over think things. It’s learned behaviour- as if that missing element somehow has to be over compensated for.

It means that I don’t listen to my heart as much as I should. It knows instinctively where I should be going and how. In the meeting room of life, my heart is the quiet one down the bottom of the conference table who knows that everyone else is making a huge mistake, but no one else is paying attention to her.

The thing is, when it comes to personal goals, you’ll generally achieve the things that you really really want. So, for those of you who are going to make a declaration at midnight on the 31, here is my (quick) guide to goal setting through the elements.

If you’re an Earth sign, the structure of a well composed goal will help you get to where you need to go. Laying the foundations is important to you.

If you’re unable to build on it, it won’t exist.

If you’re a Fire sign, make sure that there’s sufficient flexibility within the goal to allow the flames to breathe, but not so much that they are able to escape the fire break.

If you can’t visualise it, you can’t achieve it.

If you’re an Air sign, the framework of a goal will allow you to capture those elusive ideas and turn what is essentially hot air, into something with substance. If your brain isn’t engaged, you won’t get there.

If, like me, you’re a Water sign, you must attach emotionally to whatever your goal is in order to feel it…then allow yourself to detach in order to see it through. If you can’t feel it, you can’t want it.