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Bad Boys And The Twelfth House, Part Two

by Matthew Currie July 30, 2009 09:13 AM EST
For those of you who may have missed it,[ Part One of "Bad Boys" is here](http://blogs.astrology.com/clueless_about_dating/2009/07/bad-boys-and-the-twelfth-house.html). Certainly, personal strength, charm, and intelligence are attractive features in a potential mate. These are not inherently bad things. But when viewed through the funhouse-mirror of The Twelfth House, all too often we see things that aren't really there. Like many optical illusions... the brain is tricked into seeing what it expects to see, or what it wants to see. And thus the stage is set for the Bad Boy to make his move into your life. Consider the best-selling appeal of the "Twilight" series of books. Quiet young girl Bella moves to a new town and meets quiet mysterious pretty boy Edward. At first Edward seems repelled by Bella, but after a few days (and Bella being the recipient of attention from other boys), Edward is back and they bond. And then Edward saves Bella with what appears to be supernatural strength. Eventually Bella figures out that Edward is a vampire, and was initially repelled by Bella because her blood was just so *yummy-smelling.* (Contrast and compare: "He didn't seem too interested at first, but now that we've gotten to know each other, it's really because he comes from a difficult background and I represent everything he ever wanted for himself in a woman. I'll bet I can make him a better man...") And so the story continues, with Edward showing himself to be a saint among men, driven by needs and pains that would turn lesser mortals Bad. Oh, but Edward is so pretty (he glistens in the sunlight!), and he only sucks the blood of (humanely-dispatched) animals! And he has Special Powers too! Inexorably, Bella falls in love. Welcome to the "I Love A Bad Boy" process. Fiction often serves to feed our basic desires but filters out the negatives (except where such negatives become Relationship Obstacles to be overcome, so Bad Boy and Heroine can end together on the last page happy and fulfilled with a baby on the way.) Of course, if there were *real* vampires, you and I and everyone on the planet knows exactly how this would end: with Bella lurking in cemeteries, burning at the first touch of sunlight, her eyes wide with animal hunger as she leaps, fangs bared and breath stinking, out of the darkness of a back alley to suck some wino dry in order to extend her own damned existence for a few more days. And Edward? Probably transferred to another school, scoping out another New Girl In Class. Not another notch on his bed post, so much as another tick mark on the inside of his coffin. The more classic literary example of the Bad Boy process is "Wuthering Heights," wherein the passionate (but ill-behaved) Heathcliff spends most of his life bouncing in and out of the heart of Catherine. They may be each other's One True Love, or they may simply be passionate emotional hobbyists, diving in and out of each other's love lives for some sort of twisted emotional sport. Or maybe they really were truly "soul mates" and were doomed to live out a painful go-round one lifetime for karmic reasons we can't fathom. It's a great work of classic literature, and thus loans itself to many thoughtful-sounding interpretations. Twelfth House relationships are often like that. "Why am I doing this to myself?" "Why are all my friends telling me this is a bad idea?" "Why am I not listening to all my friends? Up until now the had pretty good advice..." True Love... real, sustainable love... *is* possible. And a certain amount of illusion/delusion appears to be mandatory when it comes to romance. There's nothing wrong with that, of course... it's part of the joy of being in love. Just try to be sure that you aren't fooling yourself into seeing something that isn't there at all. After all... the main purpose of a vampire is to drain you until you become an unholy bloodsucker* just like him.* That: or maybe being a ghost at the window is all Cathy really wanted to be, and all Heathcliff could really handle. They would have been happier, healthier people if they had realized that... but they would have made for a much less entertaining story.
 
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