Why am I bringing up dirty laundry? Because it is my 18th Anniversary today and my husband and I still have arguments over dirty laundry. Or better said; that he likes to do laundry late at night. Don’t get me wrong, I am grateful that he does share laundry duty. But I want to go to sleep without having to add laundry to my late night routine. I am not a night person like him. So after 18 years, has he changed? No.
Almost two decades ago, I had the attitude going into the relationship of thinking that all the things that I didn’t like about his routine, would be changeable. I have learned over the years they weren’t. He didn’t want to change the same things that I thought needed changing. I learned the hard way that I needed to love all of him and not just the things that I agreed with. It’s not easy to love all of someone. But the Angels will help if we ask them.
The Angels tell me that our loved ones are who they need to be to learn the lessons they came in to learn. And when we stand in judgment of their path by thinking we have a better way, it can harm our relationship and delay lessons for that person’s soul. The Angels ask us to love them, truly love all of them and allow each person to walk their own path. To do this, we can call forth an Angel to stand between us and our loved one. We can call this Angel our Relationship Angel, if we choose. If we have any issues, we can call her forth for guidance. Then we can let our loved one live their life and only give advice or assistance about their path when we are asked.
For our dirty laundry issue the Angels and my husband came up with a resolution. If he does laundry late at night, it is his full responsibility to wash, dry and fold and put the laundry away by himself, even if he is doing my laundry. I love that idea.