Here’s a point by point guide for identifying key relationship cycles for you.
Two, go deep.
Make a list of your most significant relationships beginning and end dates. To effectively work with eclipses, is to learn to use what you’ve learned in the past, today. This is where it’s actually good to have a checkered past - you can discover more about those favorite mistakes and then put your wisdom to good use. Give your heart away to someone who cared more about finding their self, than finding out who you are? Have a major epiphany after that relationship? Look at the eclipses surrounding that relationship.
Three, go wide.
Eclipses have wide and wobbly time frames. Like an earthquake, you don’t always feel the earth move. Eclipses can be subtle. During eclipse season things take awhile to sink in and coalesce. Likewise, sometimes we will meet a partner during an eclipse series but the relationship doesn’t gel for awhile.
Four, look for aspects.
After you’ve made a list of relationships, look to the eclipses surrounding those beginning points starting 12 months prior. You’ll need to know the degrees of the planets of your birth chart, and the degrees of the eclipses. Get your birth chart free at astro.com; find a handy online eclipse ephemeris right here.
Were any eclipses squaring your nodal axis? In aspect to Seventh House planets? How about conjoining Venus? Your Descendant ruler? Your Descendant? Use an orb of 0-7 degrees, the tighter the better. Note any recurring themes by making a star next to those eclipse dates/aspects.
Keep in mind that, not all points are significant for all people - just as every person has an individual relationship to their chart. When you make a list of your relationships, you may notice that there’s not one transit or eclipse you can tie to all of them. However, if you’re good at spotting patterns you will see that specific natal chart points or planets are active during every single significant relationship. This is good information.
Five, look for past and future patterns.
Eclipses work in 4.5, 9 and 18 year cycles, and at intervals planets and eclipses will square and oppose eclipse points. Now, looking both back and forward, note when an eclipse ‘hits’ the hot spots you’ve detailed.
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