We all want someone to have and to hold in sickness and health, for richer and poorer. Easy to say when you’re newly and breathlessly in love and the future looks great, but what happens when a partner actually gets sick? Or if they lose their job and can’t seem to get back on their feet? Or when one partner has a sexual dysfunction and the sexual bonding so elemental to the mating instinct is no longer an option? Scorpio (and Pluto) presents intimate conflicts, that no matter how much you love another person, can bring a partnership to it’s knees. Intimacy, at once so masterful at healing heart pain, can also bring up all the pain we never knew we had: an ancient pain that lays waiting in the darkest corner of our heart, like a sleeping snake, ready to strike.
Scorpio rules the realm of intimacy, and intimacy is not for the feint of heart. As committed relationships deepen into lifelong intimacy, togetherness will bring up ancient wounds and these will probably feel dangerous for the Ego to admit until we open them up for our partner to see, love and accept. This all takes a hefty amount of trust. Trust is the answer for the Scorpio suspicions, jealousies and betrayals which need healing. In our composite chart, my husband/soul mate and I have Neptune in Scorpio conjunct our Ascendant. I remember once, I went away to a retreat on my own for the first time since I was married. I made some male friends. When I shared this with my husband, primal jealousy came up for him and yet he struggled with it for days on his own, (peppered by confusing phone arguments with me), until finally he confessed that he was too ashamed to admit he was jealous. This was totally mysterious to me, and I thought: where did this jealous man come from? I listened, fascinated. I reassured. I offered him a safe container.
This is what we’ve signed up for in committed intimacy - to be there for one another when the sting of ancient pains surface: fears of betrayal, jealousy, and old wounds. We will inevitably be bitten in intimacy, but we don’t have to be poisoned. At this Scorpio Full Moon, we can really feel an old wound in order to let go of it. We can recognize that an ancient argument is really an ancient pain in disguise. We can humbly confess this to our self. Or if we are lucky enough to have a soul mate, we can pull on another ancient memory: that of sacred trust. Then we can ask our partner to place their lips to the painful bite and suck that ancient pain out.