Have you ever played that game of picking a flower and saying, “He loves me, he loves me not, he loves me…” It’s a children’s game but even as adults we can play that game in our head. How are you feeling about love? Are you receiving enough love? Or are you wondering if you are ever going to be in a relationship of being truly loved?
The Angels want to remind us that we are here in this life to remember who we are as spiritual beings. The best way to learn that pure love of Spirit is to have relationships. In every relationship you have with family, friends, co-workers, love relationships you are being reminded about love or lack thereof in some way. But we sometimes get it mixed up and think the main focus of our lives is that we are to love others more than we love ourselves. If we are not feeling loved then we try to love more thinking that “he or she” will finally see how to love us. And yet most of the time, we get disappointed. Having done this cycle lifetime after lifetime it is difficult to change to see that the highest and best way to experience our happiness and joy now is to love ourselves first and then out of the overflow of that love, we share that love with others.
If you find yourself being the one in the relationship that is always giving more, loving more and are not happy with your situation, make some changes. Today do one thing that makes you and only you happy. This is what one friend used to do a long time ago. She would take her shoes off feeling the carpet beneath her toes and eat her favorite chocolate when no one was around. She chose to be in a very restricted relationship but she still found ways to do things for herself. How about walking into a high end store and spraying your favorite expensive perfume on yourself or getting your nails done. (This is my favorite. It always makes me feel good to get my nails done.) Whether it is a bath, a jog, tanning, closing the door and reading a few pages of your favorite book, do something loving for yourself today. And then think of something for tomorrow. And so on.
Then let your lover off the hook. Forgive for any lack you have been feeling from him or her. It’s important that we understand that we are the ones responsible for our happiness, not the people around us. You have access to enough love within yourself. How do I know? You have been utilizing that love for others all of your life and you have never run out. Just change the focus so there is love going in first and then flowing out next. Your life will change. Your happiness level will change. And with you emulating this kind of love of self, who knows; your lover may do the same.
I love me, I love him, I love me, I love them, I love me…
Loving you, Christina