Many clients ask me how they are supposed to teach their children when they are teenagers since they don’t seem to listen to them. The Angels have shared that our children learn from parents between birth and the age of 12 years old. After that, their Souls want to be guided, rather than taught.
It is best in these teenage years to be a parent that watches and waits for the child to come to you for advice or help. This is so they can make their mistakes when they are in the safety and comfort of your care. Some parents over protect their children fixing everything so that the child never feels pain or upset or faces challenges. This makes it very difficult for the child to learn its Soul lessons until they are out on their own. In their 20s, the lessons are harder and they won’t have the support they need around them.
Being a guide instead of a teacher during the teenage years may be difficult to do. So the Angels share that we can talk to our children’s Angels to keep us informed of anything we need to know and if we need to intervene because the child is doing something that is harmful and not necessary for their Soul to learn while on Earth. Keeping in mind that we are all hear for a spiritual purpose and not just living an Earth-plane life. So we learn through all things we go through. However, as parents we want our children to go through these lessons on the easiest path possible.
Here is a way to talk to your child through their Soul so they will hear you in the clearest way:
~ Go to a private room (your sacred space is best)
~ Take three long, slow, deep breaths. (This gets you out of ego and spiritually balanced)
~ Call forth your child’s Angel – “I am calling forth my child, __(name)___’s Angel.”
~ Ask for protection since you are doing something
spiritual: “Thank you that I am now in a protected space while talking to my child’s Angel.”
~ “Thank you that I am in a clear and pure energy to do this.”
Immediately your child’s Angel is with you. Talk directly to your child (through the Angel) and say everything you want to say. You can say that you want more respect. You want them to clean their room. You want them home on Friday night at 10pm. You want them to know that you love them and no matter what they do that they can talk to you about anything. Remind them you still have rules and there may be consequences to their actions however, at the outset you will support them in any way you can.
Then direct your attention to the Angel and tell the Angel that you want to know immediately if your child is doing anything that they need help with. You want to know in a clear way that you cannot miss the message! Then thank the Angel and you are done.
The message will take three days to get to your child. At that point, you will see a change in behavior according to your requests. Understand that your child’s Soul doesn’t have to do the things you request but since you are bypassing the ego and talking directly to the Soul, if you have clear intentions, you will see a positive response from your child.
This is a tool to keep in your spiritual tool box as it works for anyone you know … your spouse, friends, boss, co-workers, etc. Before we close the Angels want to remind you that teenagers learn from what they see adults do, rather than from what we speak. So whatever you are asking from your child, make sure you are emulating that in your own life. If you want your child to be truthful, make sure you are truthful. If you want your child to manage their money well, make sure you are a good manager of your money. If you want them to eat breakfast, make sure you are eating breakfast.
Remember at this point in your relationship, you are a guide. Be there with an open heart (not judging) for your child when they come to you, listen and then ask them what they think the solution would be before you give them the answer. It’s a different role from teaching but since your child picked you to be their parent, you have everything in your heart necessary to help them. Changing roles when your children are teenagers will make things flow easier and you will develop closer relationships now rather than waiting until they have moved out on their own. How cool would that be?!
Have you hugged your teenager today?