A broken heart that yearns for a lost love can seem irreparable -- not just at the time, but for months afterwards. Some people never seem to get over the rejection or the loss. Yet others have that rubber ball quality that bounces them back to try, try again. Can you cultivate that never-say-never-again spirit? Some signs find it more difficult than others -- but healing is always possible.
The signs who experience feelings of abandonment the most are the possessive signs: Taurus, Cancer and Scorpio. Their grief is often mixed up with anger at being -- as they see it -- betrayed. So they need to mourn what is gone and then try to disentangle their intensely muddled feelings. Anger can morph into hatred and that is just as binding an emotion as love. These signs need to be careful about not getting themselves stuck in what truly belongs to the past.
Taurus dislikes their security being shaken, and although they appear placid, they can harbor dark thoughts that take a long time to eradicate. They need to jolt themselves onto a new forward track. Cancer hurts most of all since losing the beloved other feels as if part of their self has gone. They need to toughen up and move on.
Scorpio loves intensely -- and hates every bit as intensely. Their not-letting-go often involves vengeful thoughts. Of all the signs, mature Scorpio understands that life is a series of deep transformations that are a painful process of deconstructing the past and reconstructing a different future. Once they grasp that, it all becomes if not easier, then at least endurable.
The other two fixed signs –- Aquarius and Leo –- can hang around waiting for life to return to normal, since they expect the world to adapt to them rather than the other way round. But patience won’t bring back what’s gone, so they need to make the effort to adapt to the changed circumstance of being single and make the most of it. Leo will be nursing a bruised ego and dented pride, so will be fearful of a repeat experience. They need to be brave.
Capricorn and Virgo will sigh as if being rejected was what they expected and bury themselves in constant doing, over work and ambition just to console themselves that they can at least make a success of that. In doing so, they risk shutting down their earthy magnetism. They should go in for a major pampering regime of massages, spas, beauty treatments. If they keep their animal body happy a new mate will appear as if by magic.
Libra really is not happy without another half. They’ll be hurt but it will be mixed in with embarrassment at being humiliated in the eyes of their social circle. They are, however, masters at turning on the social charm even when wounded, so won’t be left on their own for long.
Pisces will just space out. If real life isn’t going to give them what they need, they’ll substitute their dream world where it’s always happily-ever-after. But they aren’t natural loners, so along the way someone will take pity on them and swoosh them off into another romance. They are good at being in the right place at the right time, so new romance will happen with very little effort.
Aries, Sagittarius and Gemini are the devil-may-care signs who hide their aching heart better than most and decide to make themselves feel better with a new romantic adventure. Aries definitely has that bouncing ball quality and can simply go for what they want, so they won’t be wallflowers for long. Gemini always has options up its sleeve, so if one goes down, they’ll have several other ports-of-call in mind. Sagittarius will decide to go off travelling and will likely find a new sizzling romance in the next harbor.