Getting closer to the one you love isn’t always easy. Though we may strive for greater intimacy in our relationships, achieving it can be more difficult than we might expect. Tarot -- which draws upon the symbols and images that activate our unconscious mind -- can be used to subvert the rules and norms we have established in our relationships and help us get right to the heart of the matter.
When moments arise that leave you wanting to connect but not knowing how, pull out your tarot deck and see what the cards have to say. Below are a two simple readings that can help you get closer to your lover.
1. He Says/She Says reading
This is a great reading to do when you and your partner just can’t seem to communicate clearly. If words are being spoken but no one is really listening, try this exercise to better understand the deeper messages that are actually being transmitted.
Directions: Shuffle a deck of tarot cards and focus on pulling one that represents you and your position in your relationship at the current time. Pull one card and lay it face down in front of you. Then, mix the deck again and focus on your partner, pull one card for them. Turn both cards over and look at the images on each card.
Imagine that the people or animals in the card that represents you are having a conversation with the people or animals in the card that represents your partner. Record or write down what they are saying to each other. What are the impressions you get from each card?
For example, if you pulled the Sun for you and the Moon for your mate, maybe you are in an optimistic hopeful phase of your life and they are in an introverted, private space. What can you do to help build a bridge between you?
Use the symbols on each card to help you gain information about what is really being communicated between you and try to approach your partner from this perspective.
2. Intimacy Temperature reading
This reading can help you get a sense of where things currently stand with you and your partner.
Directions: While you shuffle the tarot deck, focus on all the ways you'd like to feel closer in your relationship. Ask the cards what you need to do to achieve this state. Then pull one card and lay it, face up, in front of you. Take a look at the images and symbols on the card. Let these speak to you and offer answers.
If the card has images of nature and water, perhaps you need to spend more time outside together, sharing your emotions. If instead the card is in an urban environment, maybe you need more stimulation and activity in your relationship. Perhaps there is only one figure in the card, indicating you may need some time alone to help nurture your connection when you come back together.
Whatever you see on the card, let it help guide you toward a greater sense of connection with your partner as you learn from the wisdom of these ancient symbols.