When my oldest stepdaughter was 14, she was torn up about where to go to high school. On one hand, the peers she had grown up with were all going to the school she attended in her mom’s neighborhood. However, she was realizing she was developing different interests, tastes and style than her old friends, and while she didn’t want to hurt her friends’ feelings, she also wanted to embrace her newfound interests. The feeling grew stronger, so she decided to schedule a ‘shadow day’ at a high school in her dad’s town to check it out.
As she reported back about that day, she said a number of kids complimented her on her outfit -- she had worn a lovely turquoise peasant skirt that set off her fiery copper hair, and Converse sneakers. The funky school culture was exciting, but the feeling of being seen left a deep impression on her. She said, ‘At my school, no one notices my funky style. Today, they noticed me.’ She had the feeling she would fit in at the new school, and as she confidently prepares to graduate this year from that funky school -- she was right.
Uranus sextile Uranus can be an exciting time. This is the time to embrace your new interests, honor your need to break away from ‘the group’, and be okay with not fitting in -- because it’s by not fitting in, that you discover who you uniquely are. At this time, you may ask your self how you fit into society, your social group, your school and family. You may have self-realizations that open you up to new ideas, friends and forms of expressing your self. When we risk opening our self up to new ways of being at this time, the ground seems to rise up to meet us as a new person, idea or group. Uranus rewards those who aren’t afraid to take a chance on change.
The right friends are just as important as expressing our true self right now, but we need both. Uranus is the planet of friendship and truth-to-self-hood -- so how do these match up? Well, if you’re with the right people you can also be your honest to goodness self. There are friends who, say when you change your appearance, dye your hair pink, red or black, will appreciate this in you.
You may even part ways with friends that don’t reflect or accept the real you. If you discover that your grade school friends no longer jibe with who you are becoming, you may feel you’re betraying old friends by being attracted to new and different ones -- but you follow that new impulse. Often, when you make a authentic statement, a new group of friends magically appears. That’s the spontaneous luck of Uranus!
So if you’re in this phase, be experimental. Take a chance on the new and different. Join a club. Get involved in a social cause. When you do, you’ll gain new insights into your self and your world. Right now your authentic self wants to make itself known, and the way to do that is to experiment, diversify, and be spontaneous.