Karmic Mates, Soul Mates and The Carrie Bradshaw Effect

Some people have what I like to call ‘the Carrie Bradshaw effect’ on us. They’re so fabulously interesting that we can’t help but fall in love with them. In their presence we’re mesmerized and magnetized until one day when things shift. The object of our affection turns out to be the object of our... irritation. What could explain this phenomenon of falling hard for someone, only to realize that the compelling attraction between us was actually an itch to settle a score, to exchange a lesson, or give a gift? Astrologically: the Fifth House.

People who have their Sun or any planet in the Fifth House, have prior life contracts with people with whom they will start a love affair of sorts and is by nature short-term. Not all of them are romantic lovers, but that heady ‘falling in love feeling’ of the Fifth House can make us ‘fall for’ a teacher, friend or lover with whom we have something to resolve, release, settle, or end. If you have 5th house planets: stay open to the possibility of rapidly finishing your business with others so you and they can move on. Let's look at our SATC characters.

Consider the case of Aidan. Aidan ate fried chicken, wiped the grease on his shirt, and watched the game as Carrie dressed to the 9’s & hit the clubs. From the beginning we seriously questioned whether this romance would get off the ground. Then (surprise, surprise) Carrie cheated on him with Big, and Aidan (unsurprisingly) took her back. Then Aidan asked Carrie to marry him and Carrie, with cold feet, breaks it off. Big does the same to Carrie, later. (Attraction, drama, intensity, heartache= Fifth House Love Affairs). 

The Big-Carrie relationship. Much of what they’re learning with each other is about intimacy 101: the importance of fidelity in trust-earning, and the ability to put the other person’s needs before their own, even as their personal insecurities and shortcomings threaten to topple their union. They both have trust issues. One blogger I came across said... Carrie and Big deserve each other. (Attraction, drama, intensity, heartache= Fifth House Love Affairs).

Carrie Bradshaw is fictional (gasp!) but she typifies a Fifth House heavy chart. She’s got a lot of karmic contracts. If she can move through her karmic lessons -which btw, in SATC2 appear to revolve around fidelity, trust and the power of a commitment (Saturn) - she just might turn over a new leaf, and turn a karmic mate into a soul mate. If two people are deeply committed and caring enough to do the karmic work, the relationship can go on. But right now, the bizarre love triangle of Aidan, Carrie, Big all resemble a karmic mate mash-up.