Loosen Up, Cancer!

Is over-thinking ruining your sex life? Try these ideas for getting out of your head and into the bed …

Cancer: Lighting.
If you're not exactly enthralled with the condition of your body, you may be tempted to turn out the lights and do it in the complete dark. Not the answer.

In the complete dark, sex is like one of those Halloween games where you stick your hand in a bucket of "monster brains" that feel suspiciously like spaghetti noodles. When you're already having trouble relaxing, you don't need sex to be a guessing game that keeps you tied up in the wrong part of your brain.

The key is to have a flattering lighting scheme. Experiment. A row of candles is magical, with the perfect flickering golden glow. If you're worried about fire, battery operated votives are nice and you can find them in colors like red and gold, which are sexy hues.

Test your lighting out beforehand. If you get stumped, think: What would a stripclub owner do?