"If we commit ourselves to one person for life, this is not, as many people think, a rejection of freedom; rather, it demands the courage to move into all the risks of freedom and the risk of love which is permanent; into that love which is not possession but participation."
-- Madeleine L'Engle
Venus, the planet of love and beauty is at home and in her glory in the constellation of Libra. The focus on harmony and connection is strong. The desire to couple up is natural under this influence. Libra is the sign of partnership after all and feels better when matched up with a suitable and complimentary companion than going solo.
However, on August 26, what happens when Venus meets the opposing force of the wildcard planet, Uranus, in the opposite sign of partnering? Uranus in Aries challenges any co-dependent patterns in relationships now. The Aries side of the equation is terrified of losing independence and the warrior-like spirit that believes in compromising for no one and nothing.
Yet, what if we could bring both sides of this polarity into balance by honoring the beauty of committing to another with the need to honor our most wild and eccentric impulses for absolute sovereignty? We may feel ourselves and our relationships pulled apart at the seams under this tug-of-war influence, but if we can find a way to give voice and honor both sides, there's the potential for a radical breakthrough in the way we do relationships.
Why does it have to be an either-or choice when both are necessary ingredients for a healthy state of relating -- both to ourselves and others? The real risk is being totally true to ourselves even if it means risking connection, but not ruining the connection before we've even put it to the test out of fear of our authenticity being rejected. The question is: can you hold your own AND remain related?