Q: I’m on a journey of self discovery and am now seeing my past relationships in a new light. I’ve had dysfunctional relationships before. I am hoping the planets can shed some light and answer honestly my questions about love and family. Will I ever have children? Will I ever be a wife? I was born August 17, 1978 at 7:00pm in Newton, NJ
A: As someone born shortly before sunset, your Leo Sun falls in the 7th House of Relationships. This shows that developing supportive partnerships is one of life’s truest lessons for you. It can mean that at times you unnecessarily compromise yourself to keep a relationship going, so learning to stand your ground in love is a must. A win/win is only true f it works for both people, not just everyone else! Close friendships and functional business partnerships can be areas where you develop self confidence to be loving but firm with others.
With your personal planet of children, Mercury, close to the Sun, your desire to have – or be around – children is authentic and deep. In a sense, you define yourself by your projected sense of your self as a mother. While this is lovely – and shows you’ll put your heart and soul into mothering when the time comes – it can leave life feeling empty in this period where you don’t have children. Developing interests, hobbies or work that helps you connect with children, especially creatively, will help bring more positivity into your life. Letting your artistic, creative talents shine is key!
Power planet Pluto is aligned (conjunct) both your relationship planets, Venus and Mars, showing that control themes can emerge in romantic situations when you don’t stand up for yourself. You can be a strong and confident woman without controlling others; developing the self belief – and a sense of self worth – that helps you ask for what you need and know you deserve will help change your love dynamics for the better.
Your journey of self discovery is the best place for you right now – and will help you better understand yourself in love. All of which helps put you in the best position to honour The One when they come along. And you’re right, relationships before babies!