We’re all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if you’ve been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect there’s no right person, just different flavors of wrong.
Why is this? Because you yourself are wrong in some way, and you seek out partners who are wrong in some complementary way. But it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own wrongness. And it isn’t until you finally run up against your deepest demons, your unsolvable problems -- the ones that make you truly who you are -- that you’re ready to find a lifelong mate. Only then do you finally know what you’re looking for. You’re looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person: the right wrong person -- someone you lovingly gaze upon and think, “This is the problem I want to have.” I will find that special person who is wrong for me in just the right way. Let your scars fall in love.
Libra rules relationships, partnerships and our constant quest to find some kind of balance within the topsy-turvy world of dating, mating and relating. The change we want to see in our relationships starts within, and the new Moon on October 15 has come to remind us that we need to turn the mirror back on ourselves and own all of the stuff we’ve been laying on others -- all of our complaints, disappointments, criticisms, gripes, etc. Are we the change we wish to see in the other? Just the same, we don’t want to fall into codependent patterns of taking on our partner’s unprocessed childhood issues and blame ourselves.
“To each his own” is a very healing motto for this new Moon, but meant in the “to each, own their psychological issues” instead of dumping it on the nearest target. This can be a romantic partner, coworker, family member or even pet. The point is to look within for whatever feels wrong out there.
Luckily, this new Moon is full of sweetness and light. If all has felt out of sorts with the intense Scorpio energy of the past few weeks, the new Moon in Libra has come to rebalance us from the inside out. Look to where you have lost equilibrium and ask yourself how you can strive for a more beautiful and temperate middle ground. Libra is the sign of peace, harmony and all things lovely. We are invited during this new Moon to plant the necessary seeds in order to bring more beauty and balance and less drama and discord.
The new Moon in Libra inspires us to consider the other’s point of view with patience, understanding and tolerance. These are the keys of Libra’s strength in sweetening our relationships. It is also about doing what is fair and what is right. Our ability to adapt, adjust and accommodate also serves us well during this new Moon. Try applying this awesome triple-A formula to bring more harmony to existing relationships.