With Venus now retrograde, expect your love life to slow down a bit. This is a wonderful time for us all to stop and reexamine what we truly want out of our relationships. What is it that we truly value? Are your needs being met by your current situation? If you're in a relationship, what is it that your partner truly needs? Is your relationship meeting their needs, as well? If not, this is the time for us all to realign ourselves with the things we need most.
I know for me, this couldn't have come at a more perfect time. I've been in a relationship with someone who is seven years younger than me. For the past year, we have had the time of our lives. He's always been so fun, yet respectful, giving, and honest at all times. However, recently, I've really started noticing that we're on different pages now. I want to settle down and start a family soon, however, I know he still needs to experience his youth. I always knew in the back of my mind that this would most likely happen, but now the light has really kicked on and I've decided to take action. I know that I can't stick around waiting for him to change because if that day never comes I will resent the years I stayed with him, and the last thing I want to do is resent my time with him.
This last Mercury in retrograde was another big indicator for me, too. It happened in my house of relationships, and during that time everything really began to slow down in that department as well. I remember sitting with him at a cafÇ in Paris and I burst into tears. I had voiced all my concerns about our potential relationship problems. The things I saw when I was with him and his friends in France were things I didn't want to be a part of anymore. I'm over going to nightclubs and foam parties. I've been there and done that. So what are we doing? I thought. We talked about seeing how it would go once we settled back in LA for the fall. Sure enough, the things I was concerned with have turned into challenges for us. Even though it isn't working out for us now, like the Edith Piaf song, I have no regrets. I had such a strong connection to this young man and I know he will make a great father and husband one day. Unfortunately, that day isn't going to be soon enough for me.
I know what I want. My past experiences have all led me to figure out those things. What is it that you want? Ask yourself that now. Be clear about what it is you want in your relationship. If you are unsure what you want, then use this time to figure it out. Venus resumes its forward motion on November 18. Work on figuring out what you truly want and use this time to manifest those things for yourself. If it helps, start to journal. Write out a list of the things you want in a man or woman, and practice patience. It may not happen over night, but you'll attract those desires in the physical form, and when you do, you'll be singing your heart out in happiness.