Sex Signs: Can an Ex-Lover Become a Friend?

Dear Kiki,
I am a Libra who fell hard about five years ago for a Scorpio. Back then the problem was that I wanted a relationship and he did not. However, we stayed in a period of limbo for about three years (within which time he was living it up with every girl possible). Eventually I moved on and I met someone new, then about three months into my relationship, he called and asked for another chance and I said no, out of fear and past experiences with him. When that relationship failed three years later, we began talking again ... not very often because he was in a relationship. Recently though, when his relationship went awry he started calling me. He and his girlfriend broke up and we started to hang a lot.

We started down the same road again and, as I suspected, he said the same thing as before, “I’m not ready for anything anytime soon …” The only problem is he wants us to remain friends. Is it worth being a friend to him?
-- Libra

Libra Lady,
You are the sign of harmony and you love relationships. You love it so much that sometimes you sacrifice yourself just to be in a relationship, but for what? You need to be getting equal parts of the pie and, if not, then it’s time to weigh your options.

Scorpio is a fixed sign and once they make an emotional decision, they never go back. It seems your Scorpio did so long ago. The fact that you always go back when it’s fall-out time with other relationships makes for a very weak foundation to start on.

The good news is that Libra is moving into a new phase. In October 2012, Saturn (discipline) will move out of your First House and bring you relief. Additionally, you’ll have Gemini in Jupiter (harmony) mid-year and Venus (love) in Gemini for several months -- all of which is compatible with Libra. This will introduce expansion in your life; the key is to let go of the past. Once you know you’ve had enough with this Scorpio, new opportunities will present themselves and things will start to fall into place.
Love, Love, Love,
-- Kiki