I am a Scorpio with a failing marriage to a Capricorn for about three years and I'm ready for a divorce, but finances are too hard to start again on my own in this economy, being a mother of a 2 year old. So, I am just now separating from my husband. I started a new job about a year ago --where I met an amazing Aries man. We worked side-by-side for seven months and I fell for him. He was very charming, caring and determined to win me over.
After seven months, he finished his degree and switched careers, to work his dream job. He also DJs on weekends. Needless to say he has very little time for anything else. He makes time for me about once a week, which is all I ask for because I don't want to get in the way of his goals. He says he's not ready for a relationship because he feels he's not stable enough, that there's not time, so he wouldn't be able to treat me right. He also expressed he isn't sure if I’d "be able to handle him and all of his stuff." (I'm not sure what that means.)
I work late hours, 11 at night, so we've never actually been on a date. We've gone out; I like to watch him DJ, but mostly we stay at his house and watch movies and stuff. We've been at this for almost a year now. He says he thinks by the time he finishes school he'll be more stable and might be ready for a committed relationship. I know he doesn't date anyone else, although he is a flirt. Surprisingly, I'm not jealous. I guess I trust him. We have phenomenal chemistry and we really make each other laugh. It's almost as if he always sees me for exactly who I am and always knows what to say to calm me down or make me listen (I am a Scorpio, after all).
I try to let him take the lead, but it's hard because if I did, I feel like I’d never see him, because when he does want to hang out I have things going on. We seem perfect for each other and all of our friends see it. I'm just not sure if he sees it. I was just wondering what you think?
Oh girl, step back from the insanity! If you want karma to work for you, you have to play it straight! You’ve been in a failing marriage for three years and worried about supporting yourself, and good for you for getting a job -- but then at the job met someone you fell for. The next part of the story should be you are getting your divorce and working on securing your daughter’s wellbeing and your own, as you can’t keep holding onto one man for your own needs of security and then want to start something with another. Bad karma!
Yes, because you have a daughter you want to be safe, but are you thinking about her as you are chasing after this Aries? After all, what example are you giving as you are playing the “I get what I can because I know you’re too busy and important to make me your priority, because DJing is so much more important than making it real with me.” As it goes, Aries guys like to move fast, love new things and need challenge, so the longer you linger with him in this hang-out mode and he isn’t moving on the commitment, then the odds lower. A waiting Aries is never a good sign -- so understand that straight up off the bat.
Sure, you might feel all this other logistical stuff that it can work with him, but the key piece of him putting the puzzle together isn’t happening and for that, don’t wait another year! Instead, work on getting your finances in order, your daughter secure and out of the divorce, because otherwise you’re twisting your karma into a pretzel that isn’t so easy to work around and will just cause more drama in your life than you can now see.
Plus, you have Jupiter in your Seventh House now, which is giving you the power of truth and luck to smooth out any dealings in commitment and legal matters. Yes, this is also good for creating equal partnerships, but you can’t dive into one, without settling the score in the other. Sure, people may do that, but it doesn’t make it right. Besides, if you read over your letter you will see how many excuses you’re making for this Aries and giving him space to be busy. But c’mon, even President Obama makes time for his wife! Being a DJ can get hectic, but it’s not trying to solve world economical issues. Understand you are worth more than being on the sidelines! Get yourself out of all that binds you; having your freedom and space might be your ticket to unraveling this whole love puzzle you’re currently in.
Love, Love, Love,
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Astrosexologist Kiki T. is author of the ultimate astral to woo, coo, do and even shoo any man in the universe, The Celestial Sexpot’s Handbook.