Sex Signs: Wanna Swing?

Is your love life in a tizzy? Feeling trapped in a scandalous situation that only celestial forces can pull you out of? Or are you looking for answers that only fate can provide? If so, then you’ve come to the right place! Spill your sexy secrets and find out how to satisfy yourself celestially. By learning all the astrological ins and out to love and lust, you can realize that getting some control isn’t necessarily light years away. Know that you, yes even you, can rule your own universe anywhere and anytime. After all, it is in the stars! (To write your sex and love questions to Kiki, contact her at: AstrosexologistKiki@gmail.com)

Dear Kiki,
My husband wants to start swinging. He says it has been something he has wanted to try for a long time. It has nothing to do with being bored with our sex life, but he feels it could add a new dimension to the way we have sex and love each other. I trust him and I’m not possessive. I feel that’s great that he can be open about his sexual fantasies with me, but I don’t want to. I am a Capricorn; he is an Aquarius. We often don’t see eye to eye and this is one of those times. I think with diseases out there, it sounds unsafe. He won’t do it without me, but I know he would be really upset if I didn’t say yes. How do I go about this, where we both can be happy?
-- Standstill Lady

Hey S.L.,
Aquarians are all about progressive thinking and trying new and eccentric ways of doing the same old same ole. Capricorns are traditionalists and want things to stay the same. As astrological neighbors, you couldn’t get more opposite. While he is going to try to get you to open up, you will want to restrain him -- like where you both are now on this situation. Perhaps, to at least appease him, try doing some research about this together, before you make up your mind. This shows him that you are willing to listen to him and have an open mind. You will find out things like most swinging circles require you get a full medical examination and tested for STDs before joining. So, rest assure, if you want someone clean, you can ask for the proof before you go for it!

Also, talking to him about why you don’t want to and why he does needs to be explored more, as you never know what you will uncover as you go in deeper. Your husband will appreciate that you cared enough to look within rather than shutting him down and saying no -- and you can get your thoughts out on the table with him. Plus, as a couple, you two can really make this a joint effort. Besides, there is more to swinging than just meeting others to have sex with, and you may be surprised at what you find. It's a whole subculture that is worth learning about, at the least to learn where your man is coming from. Perhaps going to a swingers club to watch or meet some first, to talk to about that world would be a better way to assess your decision on the matter. After all, you never know what may happen with more info; you might just swing your mind to a yes or your husband’s to a no!
-- Kiki T., Astrosexologist