I am dating a Cancer now. I feel close to him at times, and then he likes to disappear. How can he be so committed and loyal, yet so mysterious? It drives me nuts.
Cancer’s are sideways communicators and tend to be so sensitive, that they just can’t come out and say how they feel, as they feel it and so therefore, they always need time to retreat and sort themselves out. Yes, as you get to know him more, he will become sure of himself, but in the meantime, there is no prying this man out of his shell before it is time.
The only thing you can do is open yourself up and provide a safe environment for him to come out in — like it seems you have. However, despite how much effort you put in, know that this will always play a part in your relationship somehow — where he is going to be secretive about things. Just know to not take it personally, as he has to be able to admit things to himself before he can answer to you. If you do push, you will be acting more like a parent, rather than a lover … and then this brings up a whole other set of issues … like his mother issues that he inevitably always has. Plus, he is a feeler, and listens to his instincts. He will come around when he feels it is right. Until then, decide if this is really for you and proceed ahead.
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Astrosexologist Kiki T. is author of the ultimate astral to woo, coo, do and even shoo any man in the universe, The Celestial Sexpot’s Handbook.