Do you find yourself emotionally regressing every time you get around your parents? Responding with a whiny tone when one of them pushes your buttons, or engaging in childish behaviors you thought you’d long ago left behind you? Because of this common phenomenon, you may be dreading that family visit coming up this coming holiday season.
For many of us, this time of year can bring up a variety of mixed emotions from the past. Though some of these feelings are enjoyable as we gather together with family, we may also be forced to face old patterns and habits we thought we were done with.
Trying to transform your old manner of relating to your family to a new and more empowering way of interacting may not happen overnight, but Tarot has some useful insights to offer that can set you in the right direction.
The Ten of Cups is the Tarot card that symbolizes our dreams, wishes and feelings about home and family. It’s a card of optimism and hope for the future. As a member of the suite of Cups, it represents a culmination of emotions, intuition, dreams and creativity. This card teaches us how to create a happy sense of home within ourselves first, so that we can then create it outwardly in the physical realm.
Before your next family visit, take some time to meditate on the imagery in the Ten of Cups. You can draw on the suggestions listed below to work with the card more deeply, using the “Make it Real” tips to put some of the wisdom of the card into action.
In the Ten of Cups card, the imagery shows a family out in the country. The adults are shown with their arms around each other, while the children happily dance and play nearby. There is a large homestead, with trees, a river and a blue sky. Overhead, a rainbow of cups frames the picture. A feeling of celebration, appreciation and emotional satisfaction permeates the air. What has been worked on is now achieved, and this is a time of pleasure and enjoyment.
Make it Real #1
What do you appreciate about your family and loved ones? What reasons do you have to celebrate? Maybe a new baby has been born in the last year, or someone has graduated, married or had an anniversary. Choose a reason to celebrate and throw a party, bake a cake or write a card to express your gratitude for the people who help you to feel at home in the world.
Make it Real #2
Notice that in the card, the people are shown as being partnered off, the adults joined together in a loving embrace and the children holding hands as they dance. Who are your special allies amongst your family and friends? Is it your husband, sister, cousin or oldest childhood friend? Recognize how this person offers you support in the midst of family issues, dramas and changes. Let them know how much they mean to you and thank them for their role in your life.