Why does everyone get all crotchety whenever the word "retrograde" is muttered? Even if there is little to zilch interest in the astrological arts, it's as if we're all programmed to recoil in horror at the mere mention of the term "retrograde" (especially of the Mercury variety). Since Venus retrogrades only once every 18 months instead of several times a year like Mercury--and more importantly because she rules precious commodities like love, money and beauty--things get ugly.
Just because she's taking a little retreat, do we really have to start dressing in drab colors, breaking hearts, eating millet, swearing off dating, mating and relating for forty days, and stashing cash under the mattress refusing to buy ourselves anything except bread? What kind of goddess, even in repose, would ever wish such a thing on her mortal worshippers?
Doesn't it feel like some cosmic Nazi force suddenly raided our psyches ripping out all the sweetness and light leaving a slew of bottomless Mars-worthy temper tantrums to contend with for forty long days and lonely nights? Or like someone stole all the candy and flowers and we're now being force-fed rice cakes and made to wade in the dead prickly weeds of our past? As Lynda HIll so aptly observed, this is a forty day test of wandering in the desert like Jesus--no wonder I feel parched. Somebody bring me some water!
With everyone fiercely clutching their wallets in reaction to the current economic collapse, you'd think Venus was out of phase for months already. (Luxury items--faggedaboutit!) Nahhhh... that we can link to the fallout of Pluto in Sag, or better yet---The Bush era! But in our quest to preserve the beauty and bounty that Venus brings (ok, so she's in her detriment in Aries, but so the fu*k what), let's re-commit to living life like we're on fire, or at least dancing in the flames. Venus in Aries is all about the hot-potato approach--catch but then let go before you get burned. Clinging is where we get burned. 2012 is only a stone's throw away--isn't it time we embraced the concept of self-interest as having a healthy place in relationships? Aries is about preserving our individualistic instincts. It's so June Cleaver and Marion Cunningham to cow-tow in southern bell like deference to the proverbial hubby, humbly serving up a pot-roast while totally keeping the needs, gripes and passions tightly suppressed until we implode with migraines or run off with the milk man. If nothing else the current Venus in Aries demands we fiercely love ourselves, our lives with an all-consuming fire that rages on even in the face of discord. If we insist that everything be continuous sweetness and light, we might as well pack up and move to Candyland until we give ourselves Diabetes.
EVER FALLEN IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE FALLEN IN LOVE WITH?
And yes you can expect heaps of break-ups just as you can expect many to rush head first into red flag-heavy love relationships that will most likely crash and burn when Venus gets her groove back, and can discern the real from the fake. And yes you can expect to cover old ground as old lovers come crawling out of the woodwork.
When out to brunch with your sweetie or even your BFF (if the Venus Rx hasn't split you guys up yet), cease all tweets, emails, google searches, word warping, shazaming, status updates and texts for the duration of your precious time together. I have seen more fights break out over what should have been a romantic meal because someone couldn't curb their addiction to their crackberry or I-crack. I'm not pointing fingers, because I've been screamed at several times myself to put down the crack.
Like all retrograde periods, the invitation is to go within, slow the insanity down, and go deeper in the service of re-inventing, re-working, re-leasing, re-visioning. In the case of Venus, let this inner re-flection re-volve around beauty, love, relationships, values, and of course--moola!
Where did life go?...
and why did it run away??...
and how come everything has to change?
Par for the course during Venus Rx in Aries:
Lack of patience.
Allergies to working.
A surge in red wine sales.
Interruption in flow.
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