"Ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation."
-- Kahlil Gibran
As of June 11, Venus in Cancer has us yearning for home, security and emotional comfort while Pluto in Capricorn is asking if our relationships reflect and support our integrity. Indeed, personal connections are undergoing some severe tests and challenges under this powerful planetary tug-of-war. If a relationship isn't helping both partners evolve, go deeper or realize their shadow side, it will be considered a colossal waste of time and could very well crash-and-burn under this influence.
This transit reminds us that relationships can be our greatest tool for evolution and growth -- but that doesn't mean they're easy. Are we willing to put in the work to build something lasting and stable, or are we reverting to immature emotional tantrums when our needs are not being met by our mommy-and-daddy partners?
This is a profound opportunity to grow up and stop expecting our partners to parent us or make up for unfulfilled emotional needs from childhood. Not only does this kill libido in relationships but it can make for one messy and unsatisfying psychological mess. This current transit is about bringing mother (Cancer) and father (Capricorn) issues to light in our relationships. This is a profound opportunity to integrate our inner masculine and feminine energies if we take responsibility for being both a good mother and father to ourselves -- independent of our partner.
Issues that started last summer are coming up from the shadows now. The nostalgic influence of Venus in Cancer could easily have us replaying our favorite or not-so-favorite love scenes, depending on the current state of romantic affairs. It may be easy to long for some idealized image of a love we once had or lost during this time. You can use the nostalgia to reconnect to what you truly value in your relationships and what you would like to repeat going forward versus the patterns you would like to break. Pluto assists in the deep one-way transformation that can bring our consciousness of relating to a new level. Get in touch with your feelings, and refuse to operate from anything less than your total integrity.