We tend to put romance and friendship in different mental boxes, as much as we like to claim that our significant other is also our best friend. There’s nothing better for the health of a long-term partnership than a strong grounding in friendship (first). Yet, no matter how well we know this in our heads, it can be a nearly impossible lesson for our hearts to grasp. That’s why we often get stuck in jealousy, ego, co-dependency and other relationship-killing behaviors.
Luckily, on March 5, Venus
is coming along to remind us that we don’t own our partners, and that self-love must exist before romantic love can properly blossom. Venus is the planet of love, beauty and longing. Its placement determines our very understanding of what romance means. You can get a sense of your personal romance style depending on where Venus is in your natal chart. [Don't know your Venus sign? Fill in your birthday information here and find out!
People accuse those born with Venus in Aquarius of being detached and cold, but that’s not the whole story. The opposite sign, Leo
, needs to be adored more than anything -- that’s the polarity Aquarius is competing with. There's a healthy balance to be found between pure ego-stroking and complete detachment. Share a free sample AstroTalk. Let's talk Astrology! Get a free sample Astro Talk Reading to understand where you came from!
During the next few weeks, try to perfect that art. Notice when you feel jealous and when you’re acting in the pure spirit of friendship. Your reactions probably have a lot more to do with you and your self-esteem than with whatever your spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend is doing (or not doing).
If you’re single and want to meet someone, this is actually a fantastic time to do so -- you’re less wrapped-up in the needs of your ego and more willing to engage with someone as a friend first. You can see people as they really are, not as a projection of your ego’s needs.
The secret of long-lasting love is so close you can taste it, so take a hint from Venus in Aquarius and connect to the friendship of romance.
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