Venus & Self-Worth: Venus to the Inner Planets

Low self-worth is an epidemic. It plagues especially young woman. I was one, I should know! Low self-worth motivates so many poor relationship choices. No wonder the same Goddess who resides over love relationship, also is the goddess of self-esteem.

I was listening to a psychic on the radio this morning advising a woman who knows she’s in an unhealthy relationship. The psychic gave good advice like, ‘accept your self, don’t wait for someone else to do that for you’ and ‘take a good look at the unhealthy people you’re with, and ask yourself what they have that you’re trying to get. Recognize you have those things you want, already inside of you’ Bottom line, she said, focus on loving you. I relate all these statements to Venus, Goddess of Self-Worth. When we try to get approval and love from someone who is not good for us, we’re trying to get them to finally see (and love) who we really are. Wanting to be loved in the way we want to be loved is a worthy request -- but it’s a request from our own soul, and it’s our responsibility to honor our desires by drawing boundaries, being discerning and self-loving. 

Astrology is really good at naming our blocks to self-esteem so we can have the relationship we want. Our Venus sign helps us understand our unique relationship (and creative/artistic) desires. However if we have squares and oppositions to our Venus, we have some self-worth issues to work through with our partners. [Don't know your Venus sign? Find out with "What's Your Love Sign?" and the middle right of this page!]

Below is a list of Venus influences. If you have a conjunction, these principles should flow more smoothly though that's not always the case. If you have a square or opposition to Venus, the price for not doing the developmental work of this planet is high.

Venus/Sun. When Venus joins your Sun, your identity revolves around learning how to be in relationship with others, how to be charming, seductive, and get what you want from them. Your self-worth is furthered by incorporating creativity and artistry into your identity. Since it’s impossible for Venus to square or oppose the Sun - they are too close in proximity- aspects to Venus/Sun from other planets in your birth chart will tell you how easy or challenging this is.

Venus/Moon. With Moon connected to Venus, our self-esteem is intrinsically connected with how safe, unconditionally loved and supported we feel. The sharing of emotions, all of them -not just the ‘safe’ ones- needs to flow smoothly in our relationships, otherwise we feel insecure. For either sex, if tension exists between the two, unconscious messages tying our attractiveness and body image to self-worth & lovability  need to be healed so we can feel good about our self.

Venus/Mercury.  Mercury loves to talk, write and express and so your self-esteem is absolutely linked to your voice, speaking your mind. Artistic forms of self-expression increase self-worth. Since it’s impossible for Venus to square or oppose Mercury - they are too close in proximity- aspects to Venus/Mercury from other planets in your birth chart will tell you how easy or challenging this is.

Venus/Mars. This planetary pair are natural lovers, with potential for creating sizzling sexual and relationship drama. Easily linked, our mating and sexual instinct easily inspires our self confidence. Questions of autonomy versus commitment, taking consequences for sexual choices, romantic complications, and ‘should I stay or should I go?’ are some of the difficulties faced with this square or opposition. With the planet of courageous honesty tied to our self-esteem, we need to be honest about our role in all the drama we experience. 

Read part 1, Venus & Self-Worth: Venus to the Outer Planets right here.

Want to know how to attract your true love into your life? Read: A Love Alchemist's Notebook: Magical Secrets for Drawing Your True Love Into Your Life. "Shepherd's approach is rooted in fundamentals -self-confidence, wisdom, patience- and effectively makes enlightenment fun. A welcome oasis for those who feel stranded by lower your expectations dating guides." -Publisher's Weekly