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Q: Virgo and Cancer in Love - What are our chances?
She’s born July 3, 1974: he’s born September 3 1978
A: Being born 60 days apart means there is a supportive link, a sextile, between her Sun in Cancer and his Sun in Virgo. This bodes well for the time of them generally approaching life from the same place.
Comparing two birth charts is a process known as ‘synastry’. It helps astrologers determine the links and energy between two people – easy or hard.
Both have Venus in an air sign – a general sign showing compatibility around romance and affection. Talking and good communication is important to them both in relationships – and staying up all night finding out about each other is one of the key ways in which they bond. They’ll have fun learning together too.
With different Moon elements – his is earth, hers is fire, there are some core differences. She wants action and energy and loves to be on the go. Her adventurous Moon in Sagittarius means she enjoys new experiences, even though her Sun in Cancer means she’ll need time at home too. His organised Virgo Moon prefers structure and practicality. He can be critical at times as deep down, he has a perfectionist streak. Both Virgo and Sagittarius are mutable signs, making them both capable of adapting.
Looking at the major aspects in their charts is revealing. She has a Venus/Neptune opposition. This shows up as craving for the classic fairytale romance – and sometimes means she’ll skip over practical concerns (most often to do with money, drugs/alcohol or availability) in her quest for pure romance. Her ideal romance is one that has a deep spiritual base – a man she can meditate with is perfect!
He has both the Sun and Moon square Neptune, showing he can be confused about who he really is, and that he can struggle with boundaries around feelings and identity. He could fall into the trap of creating an image of himself based on what those around want him to be. Developing out an outlet for his intuition, creativity and spirituality is a must.
To add a little chaos and unpredictability to the situation, Uranus in her chart sits exactly on Venus in his chart. Part of the attraction is their differences and their shared values around breaking with tradition. Cultural and age differences add to the excitement as these two enjoy exploring the unconventional. Together, their relationship may have a shock factor quality to it.
With so much Neptune, dealing with relationship reality can be tricky. This couple will easily fall madly in love, but fitting their romance into the necessities of daily life could be a challenge. If they can accept the humanness of their partner – with all their faults – their love will grow.