What Your Mother Always Told You, Tribal Beliefs Keeping You From Love

Tomorrow is Mother’s Day. Ceres, the archetype of the Great Mother & Nurturance, is near Pluto in Capricorn so undoubtedly this day will stir some deep feelings within those of us who are, have, or have ever had a mother- basically all of us! 

I lost my mother to cancer in my late 20’s. As far as relationships go, my mother and father had a really hard relationship, fighting and resentments, the whole enchilada, and I got to grow up in it. Eventually they divorced. So when I began doing the work to attract my soul mate, I realized that I had inherited what I call tribal beliefs from my female lineage and these were blocking me from love. Here were some of mine:

A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle. I didn't need a man to be happy. It wasn't actually my own thought, but so familiar. I asked myself, why? My mother, on some level, was mad at her father - and at men. Her alcoholic father never came through for her. Her anger was apparent in the amount of complaining about, you guessed it... men. When I was young I would fantasize about men being eliminated from the human race altogether. Yikes. This was a real block to attracting love!

I was afraid that if I got married I would turn into my mother. If you were brought up in an unhappy marriage, maybe you have this one, too? I have a Moon-Uranus opposition in my birth chart, which can indicate having a mother who didn't get to experience her own animus. My mother did not self-actualize within her marriage, though my father did and she helped him do it. She left her home and family to move out west so my father could pursue professional goals yet her resentment had a spillover effect. Likewise, I was unconsciously afraid a partnership would hold me back from fulfilling my own creative goals.

I deeply distrusted men. Like my mother. This was continually reinforced by the untrustworthy men who appeared up in my life - men who, on some level I wouldn’t let myself care about, because I believed they certainly wouldn’t care for me.

What tribal beliefs have you inherited from your mother relationship that are holding you back from your full power? If you're stumped on what those might be, consider that mothers will often repeat these, over and over and over!