We all have a blind spot in love. It’s never simple to figure out and even harder to 'see' head on, our blind spot is as unique and complexly layered as we are. And our blind spot is particular to our unique love karma. Figuring out how we push away love is a process of self-discovery, a process of bringing unconscious patterns to light. One of the most valuable things we can do on behalf of our search for love is to understand our self. Self-awareness will lead you to a more authentic expression of you and then you will "attract" the person that recognizes the real you.
Karma and relationship needs can be gleaned from your personal birth chart by an astrologer, but for the sake of over simplification you can examine your Venus sign. But don't limit yourself to Venus - replace 'Venus sign' below with 'Sun sign' (if you're a woman) or 'Moon sign' (if you're a man) or Descendant sign if you know those. Or drop the astrology altogether. These are archetypes, they're universal to the human family, so just dip in. You don't have to know your chart!
Do any of these archetypes describe your blind spot?
Venus in Aries
I am rarely in peace & balance, and find myself perpetually restless when I'm in one partnership.
Venus in Taurus
I choose the safe, secure partnership over an emotionally dynamic & physically demonstrative one.
Venus in Gemini
I tend to be perpetually ambivalent, or caught between two people and the different possibilities each offer.
Venus in Cancer
I allow compassion, dependency or insecurity keep me from being accountable to myself about who and how I choose to love.
Venus in Leo
I attract partners who aren't as spontaneous, fun-loving, affectionate or demonstrative as I want them to be.
Venus in Virgo
I find myself being overly helpful, ultra efficient and super competent to overcompensate for my fears of unworthiness.
Venus in Libra
I tend to go along with my partner's every want and desire instead of the asking for the reciprocal partnership I crave.
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Venus in Scorpio
I allow my wounds, drama and need to be in control keep me from (instead of creating the opportunity for) deeper intimacy.
Venus in Sagittarius
I consistently choose my freedom and/or a belief system over the wisdom of my heart.
Venus in Capricorn
I find myself in distant or cool partnerships (and sometimes I choose status and power) over emotionally generous ones.
Venus in Aquarius
I want everything planned out and all uncertainties eliminated before risking falling in love with that one special person.
Venus in Pisces
I tend to be indiscriminate, vague or fantastically romantic about my choice of partners.
C'mon brave soul, share your experience and wisdom. What have you learned from your blind spot? Comment below!
Sherene Schostak is a Jungian psychotherapist, author and metaphysician who specializes in helping creative artists transform their addictions and blocks. She has been in private practice in New York City for the past 13 years consulting, writing and... read more