Astrological Compatibility Can Tell You If Your Love Is Written in the Stars

June 6, 2019

If you’re anything like us, the first thing you do when you develop a crush is to head straight to their social media accounts for some good old-fashioned creeping. You want to learn everything you can about them—even if you haven’t said “Hi” yet. And while scrolling their Instagram may give you some clues to their personality, if you want to know if they’re the perfect partner for you, you would do well to check out their birth chart (ideally, with their permission).

When we talk about compatibility, we tend to focus on the sun sign, which doesn’t give us a full scope of someone personality—especially when it comes to relationships. When we look at someone full birth chart, we see all the aspects of their character, including how they are when they are in love. If you’re curious as to whether or not your crush/new relationship/long-term partner is a romantic match for you, look to these five areas your birth charts for the answer.


When comparing birth charts in a relationship, Venus is the planet to focus on. Named for the Roman goddess of love and beauty, Venus is the planet of attraction, relationships, and love—as such, the sign our Venus is in speaks to how we act in a relationship, how we express affection, and what qualities we’re attracted to. It explains why some people act differently when they are in a relationship as opposed to when they are not. It’s important to look at someone’s Venus sign to not only learn their love language, but to see if your relationship styles match up. If your Venuses are in the same sign or compatible signs, like Libra and Libra or Cancer and Pisces, you’ll find your relationship will go very smoothly, because you have similar relationship styles; your partner will understand your needs without you having to verbalize it.  However, if your signs are incompatible, like a Leo Venus and a Virgo Venus, then your relationship may be rocky, because you don’t speak the same astrological love language. You’ll really have to communicate your needs in order for the relationship to be healthy and enjoyable.


The second most important planet to look at when we talk about relationships and compatibility is what sign Mars is in. Mars represents passion, sex, motivation, and anger (remember, Mars is the Roman god of war). Our Mars sign is important when looking into compatibility because it tells us how the person acts in bed and what they want in bed. If you want to know what someone’s kink is, check their Mars. As with your Venus sign, your Mars sign can make you act totally differently during moments of passion then how you would normally. For example, someone with an Aries Mars is very dominating in bed, while a Cancer Mars will likely be submissive. Mars is also the sign of anger, so Mars signs also speak to how your partner will act in a fight and when they’re angry. Checking their Mars is a great way to know just what you’re getting into.
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When comparing birth charts, it’s important to note what signs you have in common along with their placements, especially your sun/rising signs. For example, if you have Taurus sun and they have a Taurus rising, or vice versa, this could be a great match. Why? Because our sun sign is our personality and identity—who we are we are at our best—and our rising sign is the personality and appearance that we show the world. When two people have a sun/rising combination, they have a lot in common. They’ll think similarly and have the same view on life; important factors when finding a partner. The sun partner is drawn to the energy the rising person gives off, while the rising partner feels free to be themselves. It could be love, or a great friendship!


Another place to check for similarities is your moon sign. If you and your partner have the same moon sign, this could mean a very emotional relationship. The moon is the planet of emotions and inner feelings, so when two people have the same moon sign, there’s a lot of feels going on. It’s almost if you have a soulmate connection—powerful, intense, and almost overwhelming. You can share your most intimate feelings naturally and read each other easily. It’s the kind of attraction that never really goes away. So, if you have an ex that you constantly keep going back to, no matter how many times you swear you’re done—check their moon sign.


As mentioned above, Venus and Mars are pretty big players when it comes to love and relationships. So, it only makes sense that there’s a certain spark when someone’s Venus shares the same sign as someone’s Mars. For example, if you have a Scorpio Venus and your dating a Scorpio Mars, prepare for fireworks. There is a lot of romantic chemistry between you two because the Venus is attracted to the Mars’ similar passion and sex drive, while Mars is attracted to the Venus’ charm. The Venus partner is Mars partner’s “type.” Expect a hot-and-heavy romance.
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Is My Relationship Doomed Because None of Our Signs Are Similar/Compatible?

Of course not! If you and your love interest don’t share any similarities that mentioned above, you can still make it work—it just won’t work as seamlessly. Use their birth charts as a cheat sheet to how they love and how they want to be loved in return. By learning someone’s astrological love language, you can love and understand them better. However, if everything in your entire chart is totally incompatible—and if the reason for your analysis is unhappiness—you may want to ask yourself why you want to be in this relationship. Check out your own birth chart to see just what you’re looking for when it comes to love—the stars may just shed some light.

Art by Becca Reitz. Find her on Instagram @becca_reitz