There is more than one way to get a connection going with someone else -- why do you insist on trying the same tactics over and over again? Your style might not be the same as everyone else's, so stop comparing yourself to others. Don't try to mimic what they do. The people who (in your eyes) are more attractive, more intelligent or more entertaining are following their own paths. If you follow your own path, too, then everyone will finally see what a gift you are.