The Cancer woman is a moon maiden. Her soul is innately connected to the mysteries and magic of the luminous orb that rules the tides.
Her ruling element is water, which explains her deeply connected intuition and her natural way of being in touch with her emotions – and she has so many emotions.
A Cancer lady can be a bit standoffish and guarded at first, but once you earn her trust and get her to warm up to you, she’ll be a loyal companion for life. However, if her trust is betrayed, she’ll cut you off permanently and never speak your name again.
A Cancer woman’s personality traits are ruled by their feelings, and though they think they do a decent job of hiding that fact, a Cancer in a huff can create quite a little hurricane of passive aggression. So, if you hear the slamming of doors or stomping of feet, it might be best to find her and see if she needs to talk about it.
Cancers do best when they learn how to process their emotions and communicate openly about what’s going on inside. A devotion to a spiritual practice, especially one connected to the phases of the moon and women’s cycles, would benefit this sign – body, mind, and soul. Ancient rituals and traditions from the past brought into a modern life can anchor and ground this watery woman and help her feel connected to old ways and past lives.
Learning to nurture herself and knowing how to tend to her moody traits when she’s feeling down or withdrawn is a skill that she’ll have to cultivate, since her modus operandi is generally self-sacrificing and caring for the needs of her loved ones.
In relationships, Cancers tend to be extremely loving and passionate towards their lovers and, once connected, they want to bond profoundly with one person. When deeply in love, Cancers swoon into a whirlpool, taking you into a womb-like secret space where the rest of the world falls away. While it may feel great when it’s just the two of you, these relationships can often become symbiotic and lead to codependence for needy Cancer women.
Friends and other relationships go by the wayside when a Crab has found love, and neglecting these connections outside the binary of the couple results in depletion for a Cancerian heart. This can turn into a martyr complex if they’re not vigilant about filling up their own cup and working on self-care.
Born people-pleasers and emotional caretakers, this sign requires a lot of validation and recognition for all that she’s done for you. Beyond the occasional moment of melodrama, love with a Cancer can be an intensely fulfilling and nourishing experience, if you’re willing to dive deep with her. These ladies don’t really date around – they might flirt wildly, but once in a relationship, they prefer to stay bonded like glue to one person. Do you think you’re compatible with a Cancer? Ferociously jealous, they protect their mate and their home territory with sharp claws – but they’ve been known to have secret affairs if they’re not getting their needs met and enough attention from their number one.
Sex with a Cancer woman is deeply intimate and as encompassing as the salty sea. Once enveloped in her consuming oceanic embrace, you may never want to leave – merging with her as one again and again. The lovers of these ladies often come away marked by her crab claws, though she never meant to hurt you.
She’ll kiss your scratches and rub them with healing salve, and in return you can dab away the tears running down her moony cheeks – as she’s often overcome by emotion in the midst of impassioned lovemaking.
Home is the Cancer woman’s number one happy place. It is her source of comfort and rejuvenation, and it is where she goes to ground her spirit and replenish herself on a soul-level.
In search of a quiet place where she can rest and be nourished by beauty and good food, this lady does better away from busy streets or noisy neighbors, and ideally lives near a large body of water. A seaside cottage or a lake house would be wonderful roosting places for this water-baby, but if that’s not feasible, being within a few hours drive to the ocean is often essential for a Cancer. They feel supported and held by the rush of the tides and the salty air – and being able to swim often in the sea is a gift for them. They could float for hours, reunited with their primal ocean mother.
A Cancer woman’s home often feels womb-like, with lots of soft fabric hung about, and not many sharp edges. They are often attracted to hand-built homes made from stucco or clay, with custom rounded curves that resemble living within the whorls of a sea-shell.
Cancer mothers are the most naturally maternal sign of the zodiac – intuitive toward knowing what their child most needs, and innately understanding what’s going on even with a pre-verbal infant or young one. Touch is important to help both mother and baby bond, and a Cancer mama will keep her child swaddled close to her body in a sling or baby carrier often into toddler-hood. The breasts and belly are the parts of the body ruled by the Crab, so pregnancy and breast-feeding are usually enormously fulfilling for women born under this sign. Motherhood is an instinctive characteristic for these women, should they choose to pursue it – but even if not, Cancers often have very special relationships to their own mothers.
A Cancer woman is a valuable addition to any team or ensemble at work, because she works well within a group and genuinely cares for her co-workers, offering them her inner strength, nurturing, and emotional support. She also works harder than almost anyone else, putting in long hours to see a project through. If she says she’s going to do something, trust that she’ll stay late and make it happen – doggedly putting her nose to a grindstone until she has it completed.
You’ll often see Cancer women busting their butts behind the scenes building props on theatre or movie sets, or as head chefs making magic in the kitchens of busy restaurants. These women prefer to work with their hands, and do work that they feel emotionally connected to, rather than spending hours staring at spreadsheets or mathematical abstractions.
Make sure to acknowledge her efforts and hard work – or you could end up with a seriously crabby crustacean feeling pretty disenchanted. She will put in long hours of labor and often not get paid what she’s really worth, so make sure she’s remunerated and valued – or you risk putting her out and permanently losing her loyalty. Cancers are touchy about feeling betrayed by their team, and sometimes have a hard time separating work relationships from their idea of “family.” Being laid off or fired can be devastating to this sign who often becomes deeply emotionally invested in the people she works with.
Beware the Cancer who feels professionally wronged – she can take on a “victim” mentality and have a hard time letting go of past events and moving on to bigger and better things.
Cancer women often arrive to the party looking like Venus stepping out from an abalone shell. These ladies have an otherworldly quality that might have you wondering if they’re actually mermaids or Celtic selkies that have come to lure you back under the waves with them.
As far as gift giving, it’s usually best to just find out her size, make note of the brand and style she favors, and just surprise her with new versions of the exact same thing when the day to let go of the old one finally arrives. Antique jewelry will always go over well given the nostalgic characteristics of Cancers, especially fine silver and moonstones. If you want to really delight your Cancerian, gift her some real pearls, especially if they came from someone in your family.
Sentimentality touches her deeply, and she will definitely appreciate receiving something that has emotional meaning for you.