Ruled by the planet Mercury, the Virgo man is incredibly intellectual, and is always busy parsing information and finding ways to organize the contents of his own crowded brainpan. He delights in making the world fit to his specifications, and creating a space around himself that is peaceful, orderly, and utterly tidy – to help quell the over-thinking that is constantly taking place within his mind.
A Virgo man can easily turn into an inveterate worrywart without enough tasks and projects to keep his thoughts occupied. People born under the sign of the Virgin take well to owning responsibility for themselves and their work, and love to find ways to be of service to others (though they can easily turn resentful if they continually martyr themselves in situations with no reciprocity).
Often their own worst critics, Virgo men can be extremely hard on themselves – often over tiny errors or insignificant infractions. There is an intense desire in the Virgoan mind to control all outcomes of any given situation, and therefore even relaxing events like vacations and fun trips are meticulously planned out, with detailed lists, schedules, and charts that must be followed to the letter for them to feel comfortable. Switching gracefully from Plan A to Plan B when their carefully plotted plans fall through is difficult for this hyper-organized and careful sign.
This propensity to be a bit neurotic and even slightly obsessive-compulsive can be the Virgo’s downfall – especially when it becomes hard for others around them to relate to their fussiness. This can manifest in small ways, like being particular about how things are arranged on their desk, or finicky habits around food and eating. On the other hand, a Virgo man is often so full of charm – his good manners and natural elegance do much to make up for his somewhat odd ways.
THE VIRGO MAN: LOVE AND SEX
A Virgo man in love is a very particular flavor really only meant for those with the most discerning palates. He is the caviar and truffle oil of the zodiac’s lovers. In other words, if you’re more of a meat and potatoes or hot-dog and bag of chips sort of person, this may not be a match made in heaven.
These men are erudite, brilliant, and love problem solving, and therefore they often end up in relationships with younger people who admire their keen intellect and want to learn from their experience. The mentor/mentee connection can be fulfilling to both parties, but rarely is this a relationship between equals – so it’s important to find balance in areas involving personal boundaries. There can be drastic age differences here, and relations built more on an exchange of information and power rather than a genuine affinity.
Emotionally, a Virgoan can come off as a little cold, and will often be reticent about what’s really going on with his feelings. He might write a passionate letter or text, but will act totally preoccupied when you see him in person, or behave in a way that belies any interest in you at all.
This is not the kind of guy that’s going to get hot and heavy with you in public, and he may want to keep his relationship with you secret until a formal commitment between you has been made. His old-fashioned ways may seem positively archaic and stiff – but, like many men of the Victorian era, a modest and even parsimonious public persona might serve as a foil for an appetite that swings toward secret kinks.
Have an open mind with your Virgo, and you’ll discover a lover who is dexterous and very good with his hands. This is a man that will take his time and be exceedingly exacting in his pleasure-giving.
THE VIRGO MAN: HOME AND FAMILY
You’ll be able to tell if your man’s a Virgo the minute you walk into his abode. Only a Virgo would live in such a perfectly arranged and meticulously organized home – which usually looks more like something from a film set than a home where anyone actually lives. A Virgo will have great gusto for showing off his gorgeously appointed living space to his guests, with every detail tailored specifically to his tastes – though he may ask you to take off your shoes and use a coaster for your drink.
The Virgoan reputation for being a clean freak applies to the men born under this sign who have truly embraced and made room for who they really are – though there are exceptions to that rule. Some male Virgos leave the home to their counterparts to mess with, but their own workspaces and tool-sheds are impeccably set up and usually off-limits to anyone but themselves. You'll know immediately when you’re dealing with an afflicted Virgo (someone suffering from emotional issues) by his inability to keep his space tidy. Classic Virgo men may get teased for being a bit fussy with their things, but a beautiful and clean home is the sign of healthy Virgo – so just let him do his thing!
Virgos love to collect odd little treasures, especially items found in nature, and so their parlors and offices can come to resemble the wunderkammers (or wonder-cabinets) of 18th century Naturalists, stuffed with interesting shells, bird’s nests, and bizarre taxidermy. Everything must be labeled accordingly, kept immaculate and dust-free (ideally behind glass), and compartmentalized according to his own internal systems. A little reclusive, a Virgo prefers to stay at home once he’s gotten it all fixed up just how he likes it.
Virgo dads love to take a teaching role, and may not be the warmest or most affectionate with young children. But they’ll truly bond once they can converse with their progeny.
THE VIRGO MAN: WORK AND MONEY
A Virgo man is a boon to any workplace, where his intensely focused work ethic and exacting precision will ensure zero slacking or sloppiness in what he produces or achieves. With his analytical and critical thinking skills, Virgo tends to excel at problem solving, planning, and organizing information. Left to their own devices, these men can be trusted to be efficient in their use of time, and counted on to always strive toward perfection.
Even if they aren’t passionate about the work they’re doing, Virgoans will still endeavor to excel – not for their own personal gain or to build up their egos, but because they truly believe that anything worth doing is worth doing to the best of one’s ability.
Not always the most ideal team player, a Virgo can be a stickler for minutiae that may seem unimportant to others, and is often frustrated by others' lack of care or attention to detail. These men are wizards when it comes to the kind of work that confounds most people, and they tend to develop expertise in unusual or specialized fields. Virgos can be insufferable know-it-alls when it comes to the subject they've dedicated their life to. Often, Virgos are creative geniuses whose skillfulness borders on the work of eccentric savants.
Fine craftsmanship is their forte, and they work well with their hands – taking a special delight in fixing things that are broken or refurbishing and retrofitting antique elements into more updated and practical uses. A male Virgo genuinely wants to be helpful and enjoys making everything around him better – though this can be perceived as micromanaging by those who don’t know him well.
Work in the healing arts, academia, or artistic fields are natural placements for this didactic, productive, and inherently curious earth sign.
THE VIRGO MAN: GIFT GUIDE
Virgo men have a penchant for gifts that appeal to their fastidiousness and vanity regarding their appearance – so fancy shaving soap, hand-carved horn combs, and monogrammed cufflinks would go over well.
They will appreciate anything beautifully made, especially if it was created specifically with them in mind. Virgos adore bespoke tailoring, leather-bound journals, and handmade jewelry, especially silver or gold. An antique signet ring in sapphire, Virgo’s birthstone, would make them swoon inwardly while they maintain a decorously impassive external demeanor.
Virgoan men tend to be modest when it comes to their own needs, and can be notoriously difficult to shop for, because they don't often trust their loved ones to really pay attention to discerning what will truly please them. When your Virgo says, “Oh, nothing really…” in response to your query about what they want for their birthday, whatever you do – don’t believe them! They do secretly want to be doted on, but will usually never ask.
That being said, shy Virgoan men loathe being made a spectacle of, so think twice before planning that surprise party for them, or telling the waiter to make a scene with the whole restaurant loudly singing to them. Noisy, raucous parties full of messy drunks tend to make these retiring fellows nervous, so maybe consider cooking a lovely meal at home to celebrate instead. Give them their presents in private, and show them that you’ve really been paying attention to what tomes they were lingering over at the bookstore, or the goodies they’ve circled in their favorite catalogues.
If you can gain access to it, trust that all Virgoans have a master wish list of all the things they’ve been hankering for tucked away somewhere, indulgences for which they're saving up their pennies to purchase eventually.